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Warrior Stripe – Stand Up

We were standing around talking as we waited to drop off our little ones at Preschool.  You just had a baby, and I naturally asked how you were doing. Knowing you, you are doing awesome. We talked about postpartum belly, and wishing that dark line would go away already. I commiserated with you, because that is what friends do. We relate, we sympathize, and we let you know that you are not alone. Then I went home and thought about our conversation, A LOT.

Here is what I wish I said instead.


To my friend who complained about her post-pregnancy belly...Here is what I SHOULD HAVE said.

My friend. My dear, dear, absolutely lovely friend.

You just had your third baby, and I couldn’t be happier for you. The joy and the blessing that this child will bring into your life is immeasurable by human standards. There will be incredible highs, and hopefully very few lows. But they will be there. Having 3 kids is hard. I speak for myself, but 3 kids is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. I didn’t know 3 would be so much harder than 2…but it is. It is also that much more joyful, beautiful, and LIFE-filled. I am so happy I get to stand next to you and be there with you as we do this journey together, and I get to root for you, and encourage, and hopefully lift you up when needed. That is what friends do.

You are by far and away, one of the strongest women I know. Which is why I need to tell you this. You need to hear it.

That postpartum belly line? The one you wish would go away? That is the most beautiful part about you.

That is your WARRIOR STRIPE. 

I watch as you take excellent care of your children. I look to you as an example of how to be a better parent. You are strong and firm, yet kind. Your children are well behaved, model citizens. They know how to have fun, be goofy, yet are kind and respectful of other children and adults. They say things like ‘yes sir’ and ‘maam’, which for a long time I thought was odd because I wasn’t used to it. Us northerners don’t use that terminology, but I see it practiced in your household in such a kind and respectful way, it has helped me to understand.

You have had to face incredible obstacles when it comes to allergies in your household, and there will never be a day that goes by in which you do not have an epi-pen in your purse. But you do it with grace. You have carefully watched what your son eats, and have taught him to be aware on his own…without needing to rely on you every step of the way. You don’t hover over him at parties, or look down on parents who give their kids peanut butter – and you aren’t leading a one-woman crusade against schools to abolish school lunches. You are living your every day life, and have taught your son to do the same. I have never once felt bad that he cannot eat peanut butter, and I have never seen him complain once if he didn’t get a piece of cake at a birthday party. In fact, I am pretty sure he would prefer carrots or cucumbers anyway.

Because you are THAT good.

That’s right – you have encouraged your kids to make healthy eating choices. To the point where they come over and demolish any fruits or vegetables I have in the house. They don’t want chocolate, they want red peppers. I mean, they have to be the ONLY kids I know who choose healthy options over chips. But they do – and it is because of YOU.  They are active in sports, well read, and they look out for each other as siblings.  In fact, they can even get up in the mornings and help themselves to breakfast. I WISH my kids would do that from time to time…it is incredible.

They do all of this because you have led by example. You exercise just about every day, make healthy eating choices, and can out-plank anybody I know. But more than that, you encourage others to do the same. It is because of YOU that I started exercising again in my own life. And you are doing that for so many others in your health and fitness group. You are changing women’s lives for the better.

But probably the most important thing…

My friend, my dear, dear, lovely friend. You do it all alone sometimes. Perhaps not emotionally, but physically. As your husband serves our wonderful country, and is gone for long stints of time – you are left at the homefront to raise your family. I complain to you about my husband traveling for work for a week….while your husband has been gone for 6 months. He is home now, and thankfully was able to be there for you in the birth of your third daughter.  But he was gone for much of the pregnancy. You did it all by yourself. Because you are a strong, beautiful lioness of a woman. Your husband is off being a hero, while you are at home…being a hero in your own right to your family and community.  While your husband has been off serving our country, I have watched you:

  • Buy a house
  • Redo a floor
  • Spend nights in the hospital with your child
  • Remove loads of wallpaper from walls
  • Paint
  • Renovate an entire garden
  • Start an exercise and support group to encourage others
  • Help / Look out for others and their children when needed

All of that, by yourself.

Some of those things I couldn’t even imagine doing without my husband – but I have watched you navigate these waters with over-flowing grace and strength. You are the woman of Proverbs 31, a wife of virtue who is worth far more than rubies.

So to that postpartum belly stripe, the one that you wish wasn’t there.

That is your WARRIOR STRIPE.  You have earned it. Stand up and be proud.


 

I believe this is true for all mothers, everywhere.

*Photos are from the Beautiful Body Project by Jade. Celebrating women’s bodes of all shapes and sizes, everywhere. 

 

 

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When I was a young girl, my nickname was Jessica Rabbit. Fast forward 20 years, and I am married to the love of my life who, as fate would have it, has the last name Abbott. That's me! Jessica R. Abbott - aka, Jess Rabbit. Simply living a happy, yet crazy, love-filled life in Virginia Beach with 3 kids and 1 puppy in tow. Read More…

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  1. Deb says

    March 11, 2015 at 7:06 am

    And what a beautiful friend you are! Your friend does indeed sound more valuable than rubies! Together you must be awesome!!! Thank the lord for our women friends, where would we be without them?

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  2. Andrea S. says

    March 11, 2015 at 9:32 am

    What an amazing tribute to your friend! Thank you so much for sharing. I started following your blog for your awesome sewing tutorials, but your parenting/friend posts are beautiful. I love how positive you are and how you are always building up other women. Keep these posts coming!!!

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  3. Jen B. says

    March 11, 2015 at 9:44 am

    It just shows how unique and special all of us are in our own way. How we can encourage and help one another. Two strong and independent women, each in her own way. Such a beautiful friendship.

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  4. Michelle Warkentin says

    March 11, 2015 at 10:37 am

    beautifully said. And an encouragement to me this morning.

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  5. Michelle says

    March 11, 2015 at 10:54 am

    BEST words I’ve read on the internet for a long time! Thank you!

    It’s about time women… (all the people!) should be so supportive of each other.

    Negativity needs to be abolished, positive support should be encouraged at all times.

    This world would be a much happier, healthier planet.

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  6. Shelly says

    March 11, 2015 at 10:59 am

    What a wonderful tribute to a person that well deserves it. I know well what it is like to have your husband gone for 3, 6, 9, 12 months at a time while he serves in the military. Being the one that stays behind and builds the lives of your children and of YOURSELF without the other half of you is incredibly hard to say the least. I loved reading this, and thank you so much for posting. I had one friend like you who thought of all the angles that I was facing while my husband was serving. Unfortunately we lost touch due to several moves that the military required of both of us to various parts of the world. I am so glad this friend of yours has someone like you to talk to and be friends with. You do a great service in that alone. You both are very lucky women!

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  7. Mikea says

    March 12, 2015 at 12:38 am

    That was awesome! She sounds like a great mother. Im feeling inspired for some healthy habits. I also have 3 kids (4,2, & 6 months) and i wear my proof of mommy hood proudly. When I am in shape, i proudly wear bikinis and dont care about showing off any marks. I love the showing the proof that i am a mother… You are a great friend by the way!

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  8. Kerrie says

    March 14, 2015 at 8:12 pm

    That warmed my heart. Sounds like we all could use a friend like her….and you!

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  9. Corinnea says

    March 6, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    What a beautiful tribute.

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  10. Busybee says

    March 7, 2016 at 9:56 am

    Such great words from one true friend to another! Really, really love it!!!

    Reply

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